Relationship advice for overcoming jealousy

“We’ve probably all felt jealous at one time or another. So how do we handle the green eyed monster when it rears its ugly head? Jealousy comes in different shapes and sizes and the trick to overcoming it is to understand what is going on in your relationship. ”

Talking to a counsellor or good friend can help sort through what you’re feeling and reassure you that your relationship is not doomed; figuring out what type of jealousy you are feeling and why, may even be the best relationship advice.

There are three types of jealousy in a relationship and the reasons you may experience these feelings:

1: You have no real reason to be jealous, these feelings stem from your own insecurities within the relationship.

2: Your partner may just be ‘too flirty’ and stay out too late for your liking.

3: Perhaps your partner is not fully committed to the relationship and your gut instinct is telling you that something is just not right.

Understanding the cause of the jealousy you are feeling requires you to examine your own feelings and face up to your own issues. Start by looking at how your partner is really acting – Is he/she really acting in a way to make you jealous? Or is it just your reaction? Remember, the more precious your partner is to you, the more carefully you may want to guard them. Try to see things form their point of view.

Feeling jealous causes a whole range of other emotions too, including fear, anger and anxiety because you think your partner is going to leave you. These in turn, will bring out your less attractive qualities and breed a lack of confidence and insecurity that will have a negative impact on your relationship. Seeking relationship advice early will allow you to confront your feelings. When you’re in a relationship with another person you have a responsibility to that person (as they do to you) to be as honest as possible about what is going on.

The best relationship advice will tell you to take a step back from your feelings to focus on yourself. Focus on your needs in a way that is separate from the relationship. Spend more of your time building yourself as an individual rather than perceiving yourself as a part of a relationship. Whether you’re the one feeling jealous, or if you feel your partner has started acting jealously – you need to take responsibility for your own behaviour and share your feelings with each other. Create a balance in your life, because being in a relationship can be a good way to having fulfilling friendships with other people – in a way that won’t make your partner jealous.

Eliminating jealousy is not a quick process – it is a frame of mind and getting rid of it is a gradual process. It’s up to you to be the best that you can be to create the relationship that you want to have.

Thecoupleconnection.net offers relationship advice for couples as well as marriage advice that will enable couples to start to understand their own relationships a bit more, and then take steps to try and make these relationships work better.

Author - Lynsey Calver

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